Great Leaders bestow Grace and Truth!

Recall the last time that you gave!

Well Nikki,

  • I gave the driver on the road a piece of my mind!
  • I gave a mean look to the lady with all of her kids going crazy at the grocery store and made sure she felt even more alone.
  • I gave my husband a guilt trip when he said he had to work late, even though I know he works so hard for the family.
  • I gave my employee a hard time about not meeting the deadline, even though they are swamped and made every other deadline.
  • I gave myself a big pat on the back for not being like everyone else and having my stuff together!

Every single day we are faced with opportunities to give, opportunities to be selfless, and opportunities to show others they care and matter. Our first knee-jerk reaction is to make sure that we are the first in line, that no one cuts me off, that people get the judgment they deserve, and that leading in fear and guilt is the way to improve our respect.

When people are given grace and truth they are happier and more productive. These two have to be paired with one another because if you have a leader that is all grace, then no one can do wrong and everyone deserves a second, third, forth, fifth chance. And a leader that is only truth can be taken as someone who gives harsh critique and gives their people anxiety every time they encounter that leader. So to be a dynamic and great leader you need to bestow grace and truth!

Grace: undeserved favor; an attractively polite manner of behaving; courteous goodwill.(Webster dictionary)

Truth: that which is true or in accordance with fact or reality; a fact. (Webster dictionary)

  • I recently heard a story about this young girl who had been in an accident and had major burns on her face. She was beginning to heal, but the burns were still noticeable and wouldn’t go away. This young girl and her mother decided to get out of the house and go to the mall. You can imagine that her mother was very protective of her daughter, but knew that this was their new reality so she had to face other people. They went from shop to shop and people would stop and stare but eventually move on. They found themselves at the food court and had some ice cream. While they were sitting there people would walk by, glance over and keep going. This one older man sat down, close to them, looked up and saw the young girl. He stared (like most people), but didn’t look away. He kept staring and staring to the point where it was making another bystander uncomfortable and almost told him to stop. The older man interrupted them and said to the young girl, “I am so sorry for staring, but you have the most beautiful eyes.” After that the three of them started talking and ended up laughing and having a great time. I believe that this man portrayed grace and truth!

We see peoples marks so much faster than we see their beauty. img_1393

My challenge for you, as a leader and as a person, is to live your life with grace and truth. I know that people who error on the side of grace might be thinking, “I rock at this,” when you may need to show more truth and honesty. And those who error on the side of truth may think, “I’m not harsh with my words, people are just too sensitive,” and that might be the case sometimes, but reflect on your tone and purpose when you become critical. “The way truth is said is just as important as truth itself!” -Al Lopus

Some people may need to hear that they mess up, and some may need to hear that they rock. Just remember that with both statements, come at it honestly and graciously!

When there is both grace and truth, then you have the recipe for a safe, inviting, efficient, and a caring workplace! Recognize those situations where you may be heavier on the grace or heavier on the truth, and shift your words and actions.

Christ is the ultimate example of a servant leader. Follow in His footsteps.

John 1:14″And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.

My 30th Birthday

Romans 12:10-11 “Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord.”

I absolutely love celebrating people’s birthday. In High School I would have my dad take me to pick up donuts or bagels for my friends when it was their birthday and then show up at their house before school. When I was about to turn 25 I found a post on Pinterest about a woman who did 35 random acts of kindness on her 35th birthday and I thought that was pretty awesome, so I did that for my 25th. Now fast forward 5 years and decided to do it again for my 30th! This time was different because I had my friends and family all over the U.S. sign up to do an Act of Random Kindness. The beautiful thing about this was that it didn’t take long before every random act was assigned to someone. The stories that people had after doing their kind act was so sweet, and it made all of us want to do this on a more regular basis.

We have so much to be thankful for. Taking a few moments to see others, be selfless and give more, was pretty easy (you just have to be prepared and intentional). I want to share a few stories from that day…

-My Sister-in-law made cookies for the police department and her daughter made cookies for the neighbors. They packaged the cookies in such a pretty and professional way. When they got to the police department it looked like no one was there, but that didn’t stop them. They saw someone and said, “we have cookies for the Police Officers.” One of the officers came out and she told him about my 30 Acts of Random Kindness and gave him the cookies. His response was priceless, “you must have known a fat kid was on duty today!” It made them laugh and then my sister-in-law said, “thank you for all that you do in our community.” He was touched and looked very appreciative.


-My husband, sister and I were at Togo’s picking up sandwiches right after we had just done our 2 ARK’s (Acts of Random Kindness), when two young girls walk in ready to order their sandwiches. Our order was about to be done and my husband went to the sandwich specialist and asked to purchase a gift card. He got the gift card and before the two girls had paid for their meals he handed them the gift card and told them about my 30 Acts of Random Kindness plan. One of the girls gave him a skeptical look at first because she didn’t know if he was trying to sell them something, and once they found out he was giving them a gift card they couldn’t believe it. They loved the idea and the girl that accepted the gift card told us that her birthday was  tomorrow. I just love how God was orchestrating these different interactions throughout the whole day.

-Another ARK was to pass out goodies to your neighbors. My friend took that one and made healthy treats and passed them out. This led to meeting new neighbors, planning a dinner night with those neighbors, which happened to be the following night, and building better connections with their community.


-My sister and I passed out water bottles in front my 24 Hour gym and the response was so sweet. We had just passed out our last bottle and one of the girls inside came running out shouting, “thank you for being so kind, and happy birthday!” It truly warmed our hearts!

-My friend and her daughter went to drop off quarters at a local Laundromat. Once they got there they saw that it was packed, so she walked around passing out quarters, and her little girl stuck some in the dispenser for people to be surprised when they reach in and find quarters already there. The best part is that they are going to make this a monthly activity.

-I had a few people pick the ARK that gives pastors gift cards to coffee shops. The thought of so many pastors being blessed on that day was incredible. One pastor posted about his gift card and how he felt like it was his birthday!


-My sister and brother in law paid for the people behind them in a drive through coffee shop (Dutch Bros.) and the girls inside couldn’t believe the idea of 30 ARK’s for my 30th. I think that was another thing that shocked a lot of us was hearing that others want to do this idea! I hope that many more do!


-My last ARK was to my parents who raised me to love ands serve others. They show the love of Christ with how much they sacrifice to benefit the kingdom of God.

Thank you to everyone who participated! Thank you for reading this! And Thank you to those who will make this their own and do Acts of Random Kindness on their Birthday!

“I have been called not to success but to obedience as a witness to others and as an active agent of Gods plan for His kingdom.” -Lead Like Jesus

Here is a list of other Acts of Random Kindness that we did

-Quarters at air station

-Mani/Pedi Gift Card to a friend

-Basket of goodies to Firemen

-Gas Gift Card on a car

-Diapers to a pregnancy center

-Leave $5 in a redbox movie

-Pay for the person behind you at a coffee shop

-Leave your favorite book somewhere for someone to have

-Notes to Missionaries

-Toys to Children’s Hospital

-Cookies to the Police Dept.

-Beach Clean up

-Donuts and Flowers for a retirement community

-Basket of Goodies for your parents